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ANGER
Ø You’re in class trying to do an assignment on the computer, but you just don’t seem to understand it and when the teacher asks if you are done, you lose it and tell him how you are not going to do another #!%*! thing. Ø A friend is telling about something that happened to her when she was a kid, and you find that you are feeling more and more angry until you just storm off, saying “Just deal with it!” Ø It feels like you haven’t had a good day in a long time, and you are trying to get that thought out of your head, but the guy sitting next to you just keeps sniffling and sniffling, he doesn’t blow his nose, and it’s getting on your last nerve. Ø You get a call from a family member, and even though it starts out good and you’re happy they called you, you wind up cussing them out and yelling at them over the phone. While everyone has days when they get angry and anger itself is a part of life, these four situations illustrate persons who are having lots of anger a lot of the time. Sometimes we’ve been angry so long, we don’t even know any other way to act. Constant anger like this seems to come from one or more of these sources: Ø Attention and learning problems: These can make it hard to stay cool in class as you struggle to learn. Ø A history of trauma: You were abused physically, sexually, or emotionally as a child, or sexually assaulted and you haven’t yet healed from the hurt. Any time you hear anything that reminds you of what happened, you become enraged. Ø Depression: For teenagers and young adults, the number one symptom of depression is irritability. Often such depression comes from past or present problems in your relationships with family or close friends, or as a result of past hurts or chronic situations like poverty neglect, and violence. Ø Poor coping skills: Life has a way of presenting stressors to us, and if you don’t have good skills to cope, you may find yourself frequently irritated and easily annoyed. Ø Drug and alcohol addiction: Unfortunately, after the high comes real life, and if that life is controlled by being a slave to alcohol, marijuana, methamphetamine or any other substance, it is very likely that you will be angry a great deal of the time.
The help you need may be as simple as learning effective anger control skills, but may also require learning stress-busting techniques, taking medicine for a brief time, meeting with a therapist to work out past hurts, or some combination of these. Take the first step toward healing: Talk to someone on center you can trust, and tell them you have an anger problem. Ask them to help you get help. You’ll be glad you did! Controlling Anger – Before It controls You
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If
you are having an ongoing problem with anger, the good news is that
there are a number of different ways to reduce your anger and have a
happier and healthier life. The approach depends what’s causing
your anger and how you want to go about getting better. 
